A family expressing their gratitude together at The Roman Gourmet
“Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors. ” African Proverb
“No more challenges please!”. Do you ever say something like this to yourself? Do you ever feel like you can’t let go feeling disappointed, upset, down or angry with someone or something in your life?
What if things could be different? You see, we are so used to relating to the world as if our happiness is caused by something or someone “out there”. We look to our friends, our family, our jobs, our houses, our situations to bring us happiness. We get attached to things in our everyday routines being a certain way and if they don’t go as planned…what happens? The more deeply we watch our minds we realize just how attached we are. Think about how you feel when you have a goal and you don’t achieve the outcome.
What if we started to relate to our world differently? Wouldn’t it FEEL differently? What if today, you adopted a view that happiness comes from learning to react peacefully to whatever happens to you? We know this deep down but we don’t often take a moment to contemplate it and act on it.
Don’t you want to become skillful at feeling peace of mind and reacting peacefully regardless of what is going on “out there”? Well…for that you NEED “rough seas” to practice! You need challenges to practice reminding yourself that your happiness comes from your reaction and not “them” or “that’ out there. You need “problems” to practice patience with yourself and others. You need tough moments in your life to help you see that you can get up again and to see that nothing is permanent.
So if you were relating to the world from this point of view, perhaps the challenge itself will not be such a “challenge”. You might even appreciate the challenge and start to see that this is your greatest opportunity to become the skillful sailor of your life.
What are you grateful for today?